“Hello, it’s me, pain”

You know what our problem is? We don’t want to feel pain. We are afraid of feeling pain. We have half-hearted conversations with pain. Pain is that friend you make small talk with at a party. Pain is the friend you dodge. When it calls you and asks you to meet, you come up with the most creative excuses to avoid it.

We think pain is ugly. We don’t want to witness tears, we don’t want to see a man break down or deal with a woman silently weeping to herself. We believe that pain serves no value. The funny thing is, pain is the only one who knows the real you. Pain knows what you look like when you are choking your guts out on the bathroom floor; It knows you have been drinking to forget. Pain knows the contents of the choked up feelings that have crystallized in your heart.

Would it be so bad if we would just give pain a chance? If we would just meet it at a café over cups of steaming espressos and pour our hearts out? If we would just curl up on the couch, entangle our limbs like close friends do and let the words tumble down? Wouldn’t it be easier to acknowledge the presence of pain, to hear it out rather than investing our energies into ignoring it?

Ye Ishq Nahin Aasan !!

ये इश्क़ नहीं आसान

ये इश्क़ नहीं आसान बस इतना समझ लीजिये,

एक आग का दरिया है और डूब के जाना है. !!

मासूम मोहब्बत का बस इतना फ़साना है,

कागज़ की हवेली है,बारिश का ज़माना है. !!

टूटा हुआ दिल अपना यूँ उनको दिखाना है,

भीगी हुई आँखों से एक शेर सुनाना है !!

उस पार उतरने की उम्मीद नहीं रखना,
कश्ती भी पुरानी है,तूफ़ान भी आना है. !!

नादानी मेरे दिल की फिर इश्क़ की ज़द पर है,

फिर आग का दरिया है,फिर डूब के जाना है.  !!

ये इश्क़ नहीं आसान बस इतना समझ लीजिये,

एक आग का दरिया है और डूब के जाना है. !!

I am NOT my Past :)

We are often let down by the most trusted people and loved by the most unexpected ones. Some make us cry for things that we haven’t done, while others ignore our faults and just see our smile. Some leave us when we need them the most, while some stay with us even when ask them to leave. The world is a mixture of people. We just need to know which hand to shake and which hand to hold! After all that’s life, learning to hold on and learning to let go.

There will be times where you’re challenged, where nothing seems to be going right, where tragedy strikes and you’re left to pick up the pieces. These experiences leave us feeling weak and hopeless. But that’s no reason to stay down for long. No matter what you’re going through in life, other people just like you have gone through the same or worse and come out stronger on the other side. It’s times like these you need to be strong and never give up.

I’ve been walked on, used and forgotten and I don’t regret one moment of it, because in those moments I’ve learned a lot. I’ve learned who I can trust and can’t. I’ve learned the meaning of friendship. I’ve learned how to tell when people are lying and when they’re sincere. I’ve learned how to be myself, and appreciate the truly great people in my life as they arrive.

I do not define myself by how many roadblocks have appeared in my path. I define myself by the courage I’ve found to forge new roads. I do not define myself by how many disappointments I’ve faced. I define myself by the forgiveness and the faith I have found to begin again. I do not define myself by how long a relationship lasted. I define myself by how much I have loved, and been willing to love again. I do not define myself by how many times I have been knocked down. I define myself by how many times I have struggled to my feet. I am not my pain. I am not my past. I am that which has emerged from the fire.

11 Things You Should Definitely Experience In Your Life

Difference between school and life: school teaches you lessons and then gives you a test. Life gives you a test and you learn the lessons. Hate it or love it, that’s how it is. Life is the ultimate teacher. Instead of learning all of them the hard way, let’s be prepared for the lemons.

Here are 11 things you must experience in your life:

1. The feeling of being lucky

Sometimes, you’ll be doing the right things at the right moment, without even realizing it.

 

2. The helplessness of falling in love

It may not be requited, but make sure you fall.

 

3. The pain of losing something or someone

You realize that pain and joy go hand in hand.

 

4. Surviving with very less money

You may be broke at some point of your life. And that’s alright.

 

5. That bad people will rise in front of your eyes & never get caught

It’s the delusion that life should be fair that keeps us away from admitting that life can be unfair too.

 

6. Success and Fame

Realize that success is not built on success. It’s built on failure and frustration.

 

7. Being hated

If a few people hate you, you’re doing something right.

 

8. Experience loneliness

At times, there’ll be no one by your side. And you’ll come out of it as a stronger person.

 

9. The shock of betrayal

Your trust will be broken. But that doesn’t mean you’ll stop trusting people.

 

10. The big lesson of failure

 

11. And finally, rising above your fears

You’ve got only 3 choices in life: Give up, give in or give it all you’ve got.

Hope In the Things Unseen

It’s true even the closest of people in our lives, when we see them suffer, we either become too vulnerable or we become immune to their sufferings with the passage of time. In hard times, we often hear people say, “You just have to be positive,” or, “You can’t think bad thoughts” time and again. It’s not about thoughts, it’s not about presuming good or bad, it’s about that understanding that goes missing in the toughest of times.

If you know of anyone or you see someone suffer knowing that certain things cant work, just know that nothing can help that person feel better but a simple text saying “I Love You’ or taking that person out to see people, to take them out for a long walk that can light up their painful days. It’s not necessary to know answers to someone’s pains and miseries or to have a solution for their betterment, you need no answers really. You just have to be there.

When you have that closest person in pain, don’t expect them to be like the way you want, that’s where we have all go wrong. Before going to sleep ask yourself what was the best and worst part of the day and then ask that person their favorite part of the day. Talk to them, don’t just talk about their problems. Pain makes people change and people around being affected by it too. Respect people who stay strong even when they have every right to break down.

Stop and notice for everyone is facing a battle, a challenge, loneliness, fear, heartbreak or illness in their course. I sincerely hope people stop for a minute to tell the people in their life how much they love them. I wish people let go of silly arguments and hold each other close. I hope people will reach out to loved ones who are facing a challenging time in life. I hope that we pause, and remember them all who have helped us through.

Most Powerful Motivational Quotes

I recently came across these quotes. So thought of sharing these with you people. these quotes struck me very strongly.
These quotes reminds me that there are bigger and more important things in life like integrity and individuality…!

“I like people who buck the system. Individualists. I often warn people : Somewhere along the way, someone is going to tell you, ‘There is no I in team’. What you should tell them is, Maybe not. But there is an ‘I’ in independence, individuality and integrity”..

The moment you realize that everything in the world around you was built by people who were no smarter than you, you become an element of change yourself…you can change anything