So Called Indian Culture

Love happens only once. Okay, maybe twice. Fine, five times. Okay, ten times it is.

We all come from typical Indian families. The common thing that defines all of us and our culture is the cultural hypocrisy. The fact how every other guy who is in love with any other girl is not accepted in our culture. So what if Lord Krishna dated Radha? Are you Lord Krishna? Or Radha? Is this tenth century or what? We have modernised and dating is totally unacceptable.

Often we get to hear statements like “Unki to family against hai Love marriage ke”. The word ‘Unki’ is a general word used for Indians. Ever wondered why there is this popular culture of labelling love marriages as uncultural? A thousand times? Yes. I too have.

60% of Indians belong to middle class families. Families which can afford education till college but after that, there is this sudden and drastic change that occurs in the dad’s financial condition and the boy or the girl is asked to start living on your own or help out in the dad’s business or office. Yes, those kind of families. Families which think that dating is a wastage of time and money and that love doesn’t exist. Families which make the kid independent but then interferes in his or her personal space like uninvited guests.

And it’s not their fault. We are built that way. This society is built that way. We have been following certain rules blindly. Why do we feel scared of telling our parents about our girlfriend or boyfriend? Because one, they will blame every failure of ours on our relationship; two, they will blame every failure of theirs on our relationship and three, because they think Love marriage isn’t acceptable. Again, it’s not their fault.

Maybe we have been brought up this way. Our ideologies have not evolved. We are simply adjusting. Simply putting in that extra effort of keeping our relationships a secret.
We adjust because we know they won’t understand. And they adjusted because they knew their parents wouldn’t have understood. But it has to stop. Somewhere. The culture of thinking that dating or love marriages doesn’t belong to our culture has to change. After all, who wants to run away and get married? Who wants to be in that situation of choosing one or the other? The best solution would be to avoid any such situation. All of us have responsibilities in different aspects of our lives, we should take care to not add an extra one.

I hope this culture will change someday. Like we will really go and ask our parents if we marry this girl or that boy and they will nod and smile and hug you. Unless the girl is carrying your child. In that case, they will beat the fuck out of you.

Someday.

Stop Pleasing People and Be Yourself :)

You are GOOD enough, SMART enough, FINE enough, and STRONG enough. You don’t need other people to validate you; you are already VALUABLE.

Sometimes we try to show the world we are flawless so that we will be liked and accepted by everyone, but the fact is that we can’t please everyone and we shouldn’t try. The beauty of us lies in our vulnerability, our complex emotions, and our authentic imperfections.

There is no need to put on a mask. There is no need to pretend to be someone you’re not. You have nothing to prove to anyone else, because…

1. The people worth impressing just want you to be yourself.

In the long run, it’s better to be loved for who you are than loved for who you are not. In fact, the only relationships that work well in the long run are the ones that make you a better person without changing you into someone other than yourself, and without preventing you from outgrowing the person you used to be.
Ignore the comparisons and expectations knocking at your door. The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday. Prove yourself to yourself, not others. The RIGHT people for you will love you for doing so, and they will appreciate all the things about you that the WRONG people are intimidated by. Bottom line: Don’t change so people will like you; be patient, keep being yourself, and pretty soon the RIGHT people will love the REAL you.

2. No one else really knows what’s best for YOU.

Don’t lose yourself in your search for acceptance by others. Walk your path confidently and don’t expect anyone else to understand your journey, especially if they have not been exactly where you are going. You have to take the steps that are right for you; no one else walks in your shoes.
Let others take you as you are, or not at all. Speak your truth even if your voice shakes. By being true to yourself, you put something breath taking into the world that was not there before. You are stunning when your passion and strength shines through as you follow your own path – when you aren’t distracted by the opinions of others. You are powerful when you let your mistakes educate you, and your confidence builds from first hand experiences – when you know you can fall down, pick yourself up, and move forward without asking for anyone else’s permission.

3. YOU are the only person who can change YOUR life.

In every situation you have ever been in, positive or negative, the one common thread is you. It is your responsibility, and yours alone, to recognize that regardless of what has happened up to this point in your life, you are capable of making choices to change your situation, or to change the way you think about it. Don’t let the opinions of others interfere with this prevailing reality.
What you’re capable of achieving is not a function of what other people think is possible for you. What you’re capable of achieving depends entirely on what you choose to do with your time and energy. So stop worrying about what everyone else thinks. Just keep living your truth. The only people that will fault you for doing so are those who want you to live a lie.

4. Society’s materialistic measurement of worth is worthless.

When you find yourself trapped between what moves you and what society tells you is right for you, always travel the route that makes you feel alive – unless you want everyone to be happy, except you. No matter where life takes you, big cities or small towns, you will inevitably come across others who think they know what’s best for you – people who think they’re better than you – people who think happiness, success and beauty mean the same things to everyone.
They’ll try to measure your worth based on what you have, instead of who you are. But you know better than that – material things don’t matter. Don’t chase the money. Catch up to the ideas and activities that make you come alive. Go for the things of greater value – the things money can’t buy. What matters is having strength of character, an honest heart, and a sense of self-worth. If you’re lucky enough to have any of these things, never sell them. Never sell yourself short.

5. Life isn’t a race; you have nothing to prove.

Everyone wants to get to the top of the mountain first and shout, “Look at me! Look at me!” But the truth is, all your happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing, not while you’re sitting at the top. Enjoy the journey by paying attention to each step. Don’t rush through your life and miss it. Forget where everyone else is in relation to you. This isn’t a race. You get there a little at a time, not all at once.
Let go of the foolish need to prove yourself to everyone else, and you’ll free yourself to accomplish what matters most to you. Sometimes you have to remind yourself that you don’t have to always be and do what everyone else is being and doing.

6. It’s impossible to please everyone anyway.

Some people will always tell you what you did wrong, and then hesitate to compliment you for what you did right. Don’t be one of them, and don’t put up with them.
When you run into someone who discredits you, disrespects you and treats you poorly for no apparent reason at all, don’t consume yourself with trying to change them or win their approval. And be sure not to leave any space in your heart to hate them. Simply walk away and let karma deal with the things they say and do, because any bit of time you spend on these people will be wasted, and any bit of hate and aggravation in your heart will only hurt you in the end.
___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
You don’t need a standing ovation. You have nothing to prove. Care less about who you are to others and more about who you are to yourself. You will have less heartaches and disappointments the minute you stop seeking from others the validation only YOU can give yourself.

Solomon’s Paradox

Have you heard of Solomon’s Paradox – a phrase coined after a king who was known for his wisdom and yet failed at making personal decisions?

You can avoid being that king if faced with trouble in your personal life such as a cheating spouse – the key is to look at the problem from a distance like an observer.

According to a research, we are wiser when reasoning about others’ problems compared to our own.

The reason for this discrepancy is we distance ourselves from the issue.

“The study is the first to demonstrate a new type of bias within ourselves when it comes to wise reasoning about an interpersonal relationship dilemma,” said Igor Grossmann, professor, University of Waterloo in Canada.

Grossmann and Ethan Kross, professor from University of Michigan in the US asked participants to reflect on a relationship conflict of their own or someone else’s, such as a spouse’s infidelity with a close friend.

The research compared results from younger adults aged 20 to 40 and those aged 60 to 80.

Contrary to the adage that wisdom comes with age, the older adults were not more likely to reason wisely about their personal dilemma than their younger counterparts.

“There is a simple way to eliminate this bias in reasoning by talking about ourselves in the third person and using our name when reflecting on a relationship conflict,” Grossmann emphasised.

When we employ this strategy, we are more likely to think wisely about an issue, said the study that is set to appear in the journal Psychological Science.

Thats too much flirting :P

c-documents-and-settings-kurt-my-documents-c-photos-business-blog-2-flirting-on-facebook

If I tell you I love you, can I keep you forever?

I get the biggest smile on my face when i talk about you. ❤

Your lips + my lips = Perfection

You’re not my life, but you’re the one I want to spend it with. You’re not my world, but you’re the best thing in it. ❤

When I talk to you, the rest of the world disappears.

As soon as I see someone else getting close to you, I get jealous.

I don’t care if its late, staying up late texting you is much better than sleeping.

You are the reason why even at the saddest part of my life, I smile.

Every time I look into your eyes, it makes me want to kiss you.

Ever Since I Met You, No One Else Is Worth Thinking About.

I Had An X Ray Today And They Found You In My Heart.

I Don’t Want To Be Rich And Have Money, If I Can’t Buy Time To Be With You.

Do You Like Me? Breathe For Yes, Lick Your Elbow For No. 😛 😀

Great Minds Contain Ideas, Solutions And Reasons; Scientific Minds Contain Formulas, Theories And Figures; My Mind Contains Only You.

You Wanna Know Who’s Amazing And Has The Cutest Smile Ever? Read The First Word Again.

Me Without You Is Like A Nerd Without Braces, A Shoe Without Laces, Asentencewithoutspaces

If I Were A Stop Light, I’d Turn Red Everytime You Passed By, Just So I Could Stare At You A Bit Longer.

1 Universe, 8 Planets, 204 Countries, 809 Islands, 7 Seas, 6 Billion People…………….. But I Only Need U

U Must Be The Best Surgeon In The World Because Without Cutting Or Spilling Blood U Made A Little Space For Yourself In My Heart.

I Have Never Loved Anyone More Than I Love You. ❤

You Know Those Moments You Wish Would Never End? I'd Always Have Those Moments When I'm With You.

Out Of All 26 Alphabets, My Favourite Is U

I Miss You Like The Desert Miss The Rain !

Galileo: Great Mind. Einstein: Genius Mind.Newton: Extraordinary Mind. Bill Gates: Brilliant Mind. You: Always On My Mind.

Your Clothes Are Making Me Uncomfortable. Please, Take Them Off.

My Bed Is Broken. Can I Sleep In Yours?

Boy: There's Something Wrong With My Phone. Girl: What's Wrong With It? Boy: It Doesn't Have Your Number In It.

Boy: Do You Need Help? Girl: No. Why? Boy: I Just Thought It Might Hurt When You Fell From Heaven.

"Excuse Me, You Have Something On Your Face. *Touches Cheek* Oh Never Mind, It's Just A Whole Lot Of Beauty."

You're The Only Person On This Planet That Can Make Me The Saddest And Happiest I Can Be.

Are You Tired? 'Cause You're Always Running In My Head.

That's A Nice Shirt. Can I Talk You Out Of It?

I Fall Too Fast, Crash Too Hard, Forgive Too Easy, And Care Too Much.

If You Asked Me, How Many Times You’ve Crossed My Mind, I’d Say Once, Because, You Never Really Left.

I Don’t Ask For Much , Having You Is Enough

I Don't Know When, Or Where, Or How, But I'm Gonna Make You Mine.

Your Beauty Is So Distracting It 'Caused Me To Walk Into A Wall. I'll Need Your Name And Number For Insurance Reasons.

"I'll Buy The Fastest Car In The World, Just So I Can Be The First To Reach Your Heart"

Giri: Would You Sing For Me If The Radio Broke Down Boy: I Would Break The Radio Just To Sing For You.

If You Were Bullet Then I Would Have Shoot Myself To Have You Inside Me

I Think You Must Be A Magician, Because Everytime I Look At You, Everyone Else Disappears.

10 Reasons why you should never Give Up :)

Never-Give-Up

1. As Long As You Are Alive, Anything Is Possible. The Only Valid Excuse You Have To Give Up Is If You Are Dead. As Long As You Are Alive (And Healthy And Free) You Have The Choice To Keep Trying Until You Finally Succeed.

2. Be Realistic. The Chance Of Mastering Something The First Time You Do It Is Almost Non-Existent. Everything Takes Time To Learn And You Will Make Mistakes. Learn From Them.

3. You Are Strong. You Are Stronger Than You Think. One Little Setback Is Not Enough To Stop You From Achieving Your Goals. Neither Are 10 Or 100 Or 1000 Setbacks.

4. Prove Yourself. You Don’t Want To Be Known As Someone That Is Weak And Gives Up. Go Out There And Prove Yourself To The World And To Yourself. You CAN And WILL Achieve What You Set Out To Do. The Only Time You Fail Is When You Give Up.

5. Believe In Your Dreams. Don’t Sell Yourself Short. In Life There Are Going To Be Many People Who Will Try To Bring You Down And Tell You What You Want To Achieve Is Not Possible.

6. Your Family And Friends. Let The People You Love And Who Mean The World To You Be Your Inspiration To Persist And Persevere. Maybe You Need To Try A Different Angle, Study More Or Practice More But Don’t Give Up!

7. There Are People Worse-Off. Right Now There Are Many People Who Are In A Worse Situation And Environment Than You Are.

8. You Deserve To Be Happy. Don’t Ever Let Anybody Tell You Otherwise. You Deserve To Be Happy And You Deserve To Have Success. Keep That Mindset And Never Give Up Until You Reach Your Destination!

9. Inspire Others. Be An Inspiration To Others By Refusing To Give Up. Who Knows What Someone Else Can Achieve Because You Never Gave Up And In Turn Inspired Them Not To Give Up.

10. You Are So Close. Often When You Feel Like You Want To Give Up You Are So Close To Making A Huge Breakthrough. You Are Just A Heartbeat Away From Success.