Give yourself a chance

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Sometimes the hardest part of the journey is simply believing you’re worthy of the trip.

Truth be told, you can’t berate yourself into a better version of yourself. And even though I know this, I sometimes still fall victim to my own negative thinking. I make a mistake, or fall short of my own expectations, and instead of treating it as a learning opportunity, I beat myself up about it.

I’m sure you can relate. We’ve all been there. We all have bad days and moments of self-doubt.

Sometimes the pressure coming from peers, family, work, and society in general is enough to make us feel completely broken inside. If we don’t have the “right” job, relationship, lifestyle, and so forth, by a certain age or timeframe, we assume we’re just “not good enough.”

So what can we do about it?

Here’s how I handle it: Every time I catch myself thinking I’m not good enough, I immediately write down an opposing thought that debunks my negativity. I’ve been doing this for the past several years and it’s made a tremendous difference in my life. I challenge you to do the same.

If you need a little extra inspiration, here are some reminders when you’re feeling “not good enough”:

Nobody is doing better than you because nobody can do better than you.
Where you are right now is a necessary step.
Everything is coming together… maybe not immediately, but gradually.
It is your resistance to “what is” that causes your suffering.
Every day brings a choice: to practice stress or to practice peace.
You are always good enough to try, and that’s what’s important in the end.
There’s always something small you can do. 
Failures are really just lessons that need to be learned.
Yesterday’s impossibilities may be possible today.
What “might happen” can only stop you if you let it.
The quality of your vision drives the quality of your life.
You don’t need to get everyone’s approval first.
What you’re capable of achieving is greatly based on how much you want it.
Your best bet is to give yourself no other choice.
You have to work hard on yourself too. – Self-respect, self-love, self-worth… there’s a reason they all start with “self.” 
You are stronger than whatever is troubling you.
For everything you’ve lost, you’ve gained something else.
You have made the best of some tough situations. – Smiling doesn’t always mean you’re happy with everything. Sometimes it just means you’re strong and smart enough to accept it and make the best of it.
Your scars are symbols of your strength. – Don’t ever be ashamed of the scars life has left you with.
The wisest, most loving, and well rounded people you have ever met are likely those who have known misery, known defeat, known the heartbreak of losing something or someone they loved, and have found their way out of the depths of their own despair. These people have experienced many ups and downs, and have gained an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, understanding and a deep loving wisdom. People like this aren’t born; they develop slowly over the course of time.

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