“The past exists only in our memories, the future only in our plans. The present is our only reality.” ~Robert Pirsig
We all want to be happy, but sometimes we hold ourselves back from that possibility!!
It is a truth that sometimes we feel overwhelmed by unpleasant thoughts and feelings.They show up like an uninvited guest when we were least expecting them. We all have that voice inside our head; and sometimes we listen even when we know we shouldn’t.
All the obstacles to happiness are about imagined future scenarios, or doubts about past choices. It is our interpretation of events that gives rise to the parallel universe in which we live. As few of us truly live within the world. Rather, we live inside the mind. The mind sticks to everything that it experiences and we feel the reverberations of each and every one of these experiences. But with this thin layer of space, we can perhaps keep the tempest that surrounds us in perspective. It is not the words, but the space between them that makes communication possible. Perhaps it is a thin layer of space between us and our lives that makes living possible.
The following are five great ways to overcome the obstacles to happiness and feelings that keep you from living fully in the present.
1) Fully embrace your feelings with openness, even the negative ones.
Embrace your feelings fully in each present moment. And let them pass when they’ve run their course.
So, if you’re feeling fear, feel it fully in the now. Without reacting to it. Remember, the only way to truly let go of feelings is to allow them to run their natural course with conscious awareness.
2) “Every day brings a choice: to practice stress or to practice peace.” ~Joan Borysenko
Humans are amazing creatures. We have so much potential to create, effect change, and love. We can generate and organize. We can grow and learn.The unharnessed creative potential within us also means that we have the capacity for destruction. We can start wars over words, or follow our minds into a frenzy of worry and distraction. We can keep on telling ourselves that when that one thing we want so badly happens, then everything will be better.
3) Stop looking for solutions outside of yourself.
Everything you want and need, you already have and you already are. You don’t need to project onto other things. Notice those patterns in your behaviour and give yourself permission to let them go. You are a being full of creative potential. You don’t need anything outside of yourself. You just need to tap into what’s already there.
4)“Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.” ~Karen Kaiser Clark
Life is unpredictable and often harsh, but whatever life throws us, we can handle it, if we just try to be a little better each day than we were the day before. Some days, it will be easier than others, but if we just put forth the tiniest of effort, maybe give some change to someone less fortunate, or smile when you don’t feel like it, things will get better. You just have to be conscious of how you approach life on a daily basis. By taking things one day at a time, with tiny improvements, you can get through anything life throws at you.
5) “Never forget: This very moment, we can change our lives. There never was a moment, and never will be, when we are without the power to alter our destiny.” ~Steven Pressfield
Altering your life in the smallest or grandest way is so simple, but it requires you to do something you likely are already doing all of the time. Any life change requires one simple action: you to decide. There is a rich and deep aliveness that comes from following your heart, in acting on what you love despite any limitations or fears of the unknown.
In a moment of true decision where you act on what you love, you experience a feeling of freedom and aliveness that overcomes fear. Fear exists mostly in indecision, between knowing what you love and the perception that you’re unable to act on it.Perhaps that’s why it’s called “False Evidence Appearing Real.”
When you take action on what you love, whether you experience fear or not, you’ve decided with your whole being, what’s called a true decision; and it overcomes all else !!!